Most people have dealt with some sort of negativity their entire lives. Negative experiences start during childhood and continue throughout our adult lives. This is a normal part of life that we all deal with. Too often though, our thoughts become negative as well. Even more troubling is when we start talking to ourselves in a negative manner. This negative self-talk is one of the most limiting behaviours one can deal with.
Use the following tips to help overcome negative self-talk:
1) Distinguish between negative thoughts and critical thinking. We need to have a certain amount of self-critique, otherwise we will never believe that we are doing something wrong. However, you need to recognize when that critique becomes negative self-talk. When you can distinguish between these, it will lead to a better situation.
2) Accept failure. If you like to beat yourself up whenever you fail, you are in for a steep road ahead. You will fail, and you will do it many times in your life. Embrace this as a gift rather than a burden. Try to view failure as more of a lesson learned. Don't tell yourself you are a failure, tell yourself that you just learned what doesn't work. This quote by Thomas Edison is one of my favourites "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work"
3) Limit your exposure to people who are negative. These people thrive on negativity and enjoy dragging others down with them. If you cannot avoid them altogether, spend as little time with them as possible. You already struggle with negative self-talk, so you don't need them adding more negativity. If you spend more time with positive people that build you up, your negative self-talk will naturally reduce.
4) Negative thinking is a choice. Even though you have been bombarded with it since you were a child, thinking negatively is something you choose to do. Conversely, positive thinking is just as much a choice as negative thinking. Choose positive thinking. This isn't an easy quick fix, it takes a lot of workd and practice. ... so start now.
5) Strengthen your self-belief. Negative thinking often occurs due to a lack of belief in yourself. When you strengthen your confidence, it will help you get through those times that bring you down.
6) Learn to see the good in people. If you are always thinking negatively of others, it makes sense that you will naturally think negatively about yourself. Being more open minded towards others will help you be more accepting of your own flaws as well.
7) Repeat daily affirmations. You should look for affirmations that fit your current life situation. Use these as often as you can. Try repeating these affirmations every day. You should even write them out on a piece of paper and keep them close. The idea here is to program your mind for positive thinking. The more you keep at it, the more natural it will become. Ideally, those negative things you tell yourself, will eventually be taken over by your positive affirmations.
Action steps for you to take:
1) Each month, find a new affirmation that you can repeat to yourself daily. You can use 5 - 10 affirmations instead of one, that's what I do.
2) Set up a negativity journal and write in it whenever you think a negative thought. Write down all your feelings, and if possible, the reasons why you came to that negative conclusion. Then write down the reasons the negative thought ISN'T true. Here is the link to the journals I sell in my shop, in case you want to buy a new journal.
3) Write down 3 aspects of your life you are grateful for. It can be anything your want. Think about your family and other people in your life, or your pets. Think about your job or business. Repeat this is often as possible.
Some affirmations for you to give you inspiration. You can use these if they reasonate with you:
1) I believe in myself.
2) I am fully loved by myself and others.
3) My heart is healed from the hurt of my past.
4) I love myself and every aspect of who I am.
5) I am whole, I am complete and I am worthy.
6) I am simply wonderful.
7) I will not be defined by anything negative that was said about me in my past.
8) I am a very special gift to everyone around me.
9) I am totally grateful for all that I have.
10) I am a strong and confident person.
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